I consider this issue another tragedy of public property. Because the definition of marriage is presided over by the state, those of us who have strong beliefs about it are FORCED to do battle.
Can you imagine a world in which the government didn’t even know if I was married, didn’t preside over the definition and didn’t require a $40 fee for permission?
Conflicting points of view co-exist more peacefully when government isn’t involved.
In a such a world, the fact that two people choose to call themselves married, or the fact that some people don’t consider my marriage legitimate is no more a threat to me than, say, my neighbor adopting dietary habits that I consider nonsensical and counter productive.
Please feel free to disagree with me. Most of my friends do. :)